Aspect

He always asks for a room with a view. As we travel we’re learning that the definition of “view” can vary greatly from one proprietor to the next.  This time we’re in Midtown Manhattan.  “Good things will happen on the 16^th floor,” she predicts.  We smile like we know.

 

This room doesn’t disappoint. Facing Madison Avenue, across the street sits St. Patrick’s Cathedral.  We’re overlooking what is the final months of the 3-1/2 year $177M restoration of this national landmark, the most comprehensive ever undertaken in its 136 years. The scaffolding is pretty much confined to the spires above the radiating chapels.  This is our view.

When we take our first look, I fail to notice the statue of the Virgin Mary perched atop the Lady Chapel. It will be a day or two before she appears to me. She’s lost amid the construction, further obscured by the grey skies on this unseasonably chilly October day.

 

Some may gawk at the opulence, the amount of money invested in this house.  To ignore it means deterioration beyond repair.  A quick fix doesn’t do it justice.  Over time, all homes need not only repair, but to be returned to their original luster, whatever that is.

   

I’ve spent the last year and a half attending to the restoration of my own home.  That the physical structure needs this work is obvious, and has been for some time:  The white carpet proving unequivocally it was never a match for growing boys and their free spirit mother, broken ceiling fans with exposed bare bulbs, rods sagging under the weight of faded drapes, and outdated paint colors marred with layers of dirty fingerprints and the desperate cries of the misunderstood inked indelibly in places their authors thought they’d never be seen.  That I personally need this work to happen isn’t so obvious, at least to me any way.

It’s palpable to him though, it always has been.

For years I fear my home is in decline, falling into disrepair.   Helplessly, I watch it crumble; the projects become bigger and reasons for my procrastination harder to hide.  I’m troubled by my inability to take the first step forward, to invite someone into my mess.  The thought of this undertaking crushes me like Atlas, the weight of the world on my shoulders. I discover it takes more than money.  I’ve got the means, why can’t I find the way?

Maybe I know asking someone to work on my home means inviting that person into my life.  So much more than rotted window trim and cracks in the drywall is on display:  Our happiness, our heartache, our history, our homesickness; the splinters we’re trying to surface on our own, the wounds we decide can heal without stiches. This person I invite in sees more than I can bear to look at myself, but he also sees the beauty and goodness I’ve lost sight of.

It’s hard not to feel judged, to stand up and proclaim to be a capable, self-sufficient person yet admit to being incapable of getting this particular job done without help.  In our guilt and shame, we want to make it as quick and painless as possible, just fix it; any Band-Aid will do.  But what we really need is a loving restoration, someone with the patience to work slowly, to make the investment, to choose the materials that reflect the family within, to show us this home can sing again, to heal it from the inside out.

Mass goes on at St Patrick’s every day, 365 days a year during this renovation.  On this brisk, sunny Sunday morning we worship among the scaffolding. I think about how we all move through our lives, perpetually under construction. We’re born with our purpose and everything we need to execute it, yet we let circumstances and encounters pull us away from our true north.

 

A few days later and twenty degrees warmer, I snap another photo of the cathedral from the 16^th floor.  There’s Mary, shining brilliantly in the sun above the Lady Chapel.  I don’t know how I missed her.

To move forward, maybe we need another to show us a different view, someone to remind us our foundation has always been solid, to help us not only dig out the gem lying beneath the tattered layers of life, but to free us so we can shed those layers permanently. There is someone out there with the patience and love to help restore us to our true selves. All we need to do is be open to the gift.